How to Get Rid of THE OTHER WOMAN - or a Female Rival/Rivals Wanting to Steal Your Man

"I have been in a relationship with a wonderful guy for about three months now. I have gotten into the habit of screening potential men before dating them and so I know he is a genuinely good man who I trust completely.

The problem is with a very close friend of his, who happens to be an attractive female our age, we are all 22. Right before he officially asked me to be his girlfriend, she broke it off her with her boyfriend, whom she had been living with and cheated on. Apparently he was not a good man to her and was verbally abusive, controlling, etc.

My boyfriend offered to let her stay on his couch (he lives with two other males and a lesbian) while she gathers herself together and finds a new place to live. He is a sensitive, kind-hearted, and charitable person. I also know he is helping her out of the goodness of his heart, not because he is interested in her.

But it has been several weeks now and she has not made an effort to find a new place to live. My gut instinct tells me that she has feelings for him. On a few occasions she has said to me things like "I always feel like a third wheel when I'm hanging out with you two" or "you two are so cute, I'm so jealous."

I'm sure she observes how he openly adores me and treats me like gold, and I can tell she is jealous of the affection he gives me. I understand she went through a rough breakup but I feel she is taking advantage of the "damsel in distress" situation, crying and confiding to my boyfriend.

I trust he would not cheat on me physically, he has never pressured me to have sex and respects my decision to take things slowly. But something about the situation doesn't feel right to me, like she is falling for him and may try to interfere.

I gently brought up to him that this situation makes me feel uncomfortable and he was very understanding and assured me this was only temporary. However, even if she does move out soon (which she does not seem intent on doing), it bothers me that they are such close friends, and that he confides in her just as much as he does me.

I do not want my own jealousy/discomfort to build up until I explode and ruin the relationship. I feel it is legitimate for me to feel uncomfortable, I am just unsure how to bring it up with him again, since I already have once and the situation hasn't changed.

I used to think it was perfectly acceptable to have really close friends of the opposite sex but every time I have been in a relationship it has caused problems. I want to be compassionate toward her and I wish her the best in fixing her personal problems, but I feel my boyfriend is an inappropriate person for her to be leaning on for so much support.

Overall I am a secure person and I know I have a lot going for me. Everything in our relationship is perfect except for this glitch. He has said he only sees her as a sister but I think she sees him as more than a brother.

It is the thought of him being so emotionally close to another woman, spending time with her, confiding in her, counseling her, etc, that makes me feel threatened more than the possibility of them being physical.

How do I bring this up to him again without seeming controlling, jealous, or insecure?

P.S. I have been studying your online love and seduction course thoroughly and definitely credit that to finding such a good relationship with a good man. I'm confident things will work out the way they are meant to, I just need a little guidance in how to deal with this situation. I'm tired of friends telling me to just "get over it".

Thank you and much love."

My Answer; How to Get Rid Of the Other Woman - Or This Female Rival for Good!

Aaaah, female rivals wanting to steal you man - infuriating, but a piece of cake to rectify :-)

And, since dear heart, you're actually a 'seductress-in-training' and studying the modules of my online love and seduction university, your advantages are obvious!

But there's another advantage, this lovely guy has already chosen YOU as a potential girlfriend... and he's already decided that you're pretty desirable yourself.

I DO know how worrisome and frustrating it can be for a dove to have to compete with, as well as need to SURPASS a female rival who wants her man!

But you need to always keep in mind lovely - that this man chose you first. And, getting rid of the other woman, or eliminating your female competition, is all about using the seduction arts I teach, as well as the art of comparison.

In order to win a man away or off another woman, you have to be BETTER than her, and not just a little bit better - but FAR SUPERIOR than she is!

Through being a member of my love and seduction university, you've already gained a good knowledge of the secret psychology of men, plus the ability to meet such situations, as this one, with enough savvy and confidence to nip this right in the bud!

Moreover, in just a few minutes, you'll understand that repelling your female competition is far easier than you've probably imagined.

Now, it's quite obvious that you feel a lot for this nice gentleman (and I believe he really is a worthy prospect for you.) Yet this other girl is constantly right there -where you want to be!

However, this girl simply doesn't have all the arsenals of seduction and attraction that YOU happen to have, and as soon as your female competitor makes a mistake, any rose-colored glass view that your guy may have of her will slip. 

Now, I'll let you in on a few of my seduction secrets for getting rid of the other woman, and the following methods may also require some sort of communication with your rival.

May I also ask you, are you ready to deliberately manipulate the situation?

And, remember too, your female opponent may also be filled with rather unpleasant thoughts about for your feelings. But don't let that ruffle your feathers dove ;-)

But in all fairness, your man and competitor will probably not even get off on the right kind of footing. You see, she probably isn't being very mysterious or fascinating to him, whereas YOU have been learning all the right methods for capturing a man's heart and being adored ;-)

Now, it's time to look at a few specific methods for turning away a female rival/opponent/competitor.....

One method for getting rid of the other woman involves the use of COMPARISON, orcontrast against her. It's the seduction art of contrast that can really give a woman a big advantage over her rival.

Moreover, by using each and every feminine wile you've learned in my course, you'll only be enhancing the effect of your attractiveness, seductiveness and feminine allure to an irresistible level!

To capture a man's heart and be adored, you also have to be more generous than other women with your feminine charms ;-)

So cupcake, offer the one you want more attention, more understanding and more care! Be much more CREDIBLE and self-respecting than your rival as well.

So basically, I'm telling you to give MORE to this man (more, better, higher quality....) than she happens to give.

By following this tips, the one you want will probably start to feel the lack of satisfying female attention and understanding from her. And, so your actions will be met a lot more favorably.

In numerous ways, always make sure that you're giving your guy MUCH MORE than your rival does (*hint; refer to the module "Understanding a Man's Psyche,' and don't forget the golden dating rule about never giving money or gifts to a man!)

However, you must restrain yourself somewhat. And, the more developed a woman's relationship is, the more gifts she can permit herself to give to her man.

Another seduction tip for you is; flood the man with your irresistible presence, then disappear off his radar for a while (like Cleopatra did to Caesar *wink.*)

I tell you, by playing your cards right you can truly have this quite worthy catch eating out of your pretty and well-manicured hands in no time!

Also, in order to help things progress naturally, behave as if this man is alreadyYOURS. Proceeding from this particular premise, you'll always avoid feeling anxious or insecure too.

Ideally, a woman's behavior is always filled with love and care for her chosen one. However, she still needs to throw a little doubt into the pot - by playing hard to getand forcing the man to MISS her!

Also make sure; be ultra-feminine, generous with compliments (ego massage,) and always have a warm and cheerful look on your face.

It's like being an irresistible woman is effortless for YOU, and you go through life with a bright shining allure and smile.

Now, here's an important question; are you always providing your heart's desire with the opportunity to demonstrate his BEST masculine qualities? For this guy must always feel like a strong, masculine and capable MAN - whenever he's in yourbewitching and fascinating presence!

But here's a warning to you; ahem.... don't think you'll need to get rid of the other woman, or compete with your rival by offering your 'services.'

I assure you, THAT never works and is definitely not profitable. moreover, don't destroy your seduction weapon of feminine mystique by thinking you have to give a man sex!

Do all that you can to find out what his major masculine needs are too (the crucial ones I talk about in the course as well.)

Oh... and it also doesn't hurt to find out what a man doesn't want or like. Moreover, a smart girl is always careful to determine what it is 'overdoing.' That brings me to a woman having to avoid SATIATING a man with her charms or presence!

If you follow these seduction tips (as well as all my other advice,) I'm pretty confident that you dear heart will eliminate your competition!

And, by simply adding the right kind of VALUE to a relationship, a man can be quickly and easily won over to a woman's side. PIECE OF CAKE!

Moreover, offering a man this kind of value is even more valuable and expensive that any money could possibly offer him.



Hello Cupcakes!!!


Hope you learned something from this article of Melina Dean...very enriching!!!


xoxo:-)

How to Get the Attention of Men - 20 Tips to Attract the Attention of Men

You're probable already aware doves, that the extremal PACKAGING of a product plays an important and even indispensable role in marketing. Well, the same applies to you dear hearts! In fact, all commodities require a strong visual display factor.

Normally too, the human mind is sensitive to any strong stimuli - such as bright colors and bright lights for example. And, if your goal is to attract the attention of men, or to attract a good man's attention, then your feminine image is important inevery little detail! 

You know cupcakes, thousands of people will pass a store window every day, without being able to name, or even give the color of a single article in the store window And, if you don't pay attention to the consumer (men,) then you risk being ignored or removed from the shelves altogether!

For MEN too, a woman's feminine image and presence must be so attractive and desirable, as to cause him to temporarily forget himself - and have his thoughts turned directly to YOU - the woman in view.

Moreover, the attention of men only gravitates toward the FEMININE, well-groomed, beautifully dressed and nice smelling women. And, this is exactly how you'll need to be coming across, in order to attract attention from the sea of men - if you wish to impress one of them.

The external appearance of feminine women, assures the way they SHINE.

So doves, in order to shine and attract the attention of men, there has to be something about your personal appearance which stands out - to the extent of detracting your male prospect's attention from whatever he, or they, are doing. The external should always refer to your inner state as well.

By the way, ignore your feminist friends if they start criticizing you for wanting to look more feminine and desirable to men, as most feminists hate men. Many feminists also have the erroneous belief that it's impossible to be smart, andbeautiful.

As for a radical feminist, her image states to men; "I'm smart (and hard and sharp.)But beauty isn't part of the package because I despise men."

Now, getting back to getting the attention of men, a man's attention may be won and directed, as well as attracted and guided. And, here are some very good, and time-tested tips to attract the attention of men, and to leave a favorable impression on them....

20 Time-Tested Tips to Attract the Attention of Men

1. Make a rule not to ever leave the house without make-up. It's important that your face is always smooth and fresh looking, with a healthy skin color and slight blush. A touch of mascara and lip-gloss will complete the effect.

2. Don't forget to keep up with you manicures and pedicures. Dirty and/or chipped finger nails is a virtual crime for which you'll pay the penalty! For many men, well-groomed hands are an indicator of elegance and sophistication in women as well.

Moreover, men instinctively follow the motions of your hands. You can use this knowledge to draw a man's attention to the best parts of your body too ;-)

3. Wear long, flowing hair styles - long and flowing hair has always been associated with femininity. And, when you're talking to your boyfriend, husband, or an attractive single man, don't forget to play with your hair while talking to him, playfully wrapping a lock of your hair around your finger ;-)

And, avoid having straggly or greasy-looking hair like the plague!

4. Do regular hair removal. Eyebrows plucked, and no visible 'mustache,' arm-pit hair, or stubbly, hairy legs!

5. Wear a light touch of beautiful perfume. All the better if it's a unique and rareperfume!

6. Pamper yourself with regular facials (which you can also do at home,) a new dress and pair of shoes. Don't deny yourself the pleasure of taking a bath either - with lovely-smelling bath salts and oils of course!

7. The style and quality of your clothing should PLEASE, rather than repel. And, when it comes to a lady's dress, the attention she gets from men may be positive or negative. In order to receive positive attention from men, dress fashionably, stylishly, and with a classy elegance.

This instantly stamps you in the mind of a male prospect as having good taste. 

Good taste also happens to leave a favorable impression on a man's mind, which helps to put you in the good graces of your prospect. Moreover, the first impression practically decides whether you'll be noticed, and possibly granted enough time in the presence of your prospect for things to develop further!

But remember my feminine coquettes, that expensive doesn't necessarily mean classy or stylish.

"Fine feathers do not always make fine birds!"

8. Look FEMININE - pretty, soft, gentle.... And, whether your feminine style is a 50's 'fluffy kitten,' or a bombshell or bohemian.... remember you must always look like a feminine woman - even in the office. By the way cupcakes, a male boss isn't interested in a 'robot,' he's interested in an attractive woman - who's also classy and a professional.

To dress more feminine, and look more feminine, try to wear dresses or skirts instead of shorts or trousers. Moreover, to look sexy, but classy, the hemline of your dress, or skirt, should be no higher than the knee. However, there can be a slit going up one leg (though make sure that it doesn't go too high doves!)

In addition, allow your top or blouse to reach as far up as under your neck, but allow it to open up at your shoulders – showing some bare skin there. Or wear a high collared top with some lace across the chest area.

And, don't forget that your clothes and shoes should always be in perfect condition too.

9. On the right occasions, wear seam or lace stockings. This is also a time-testedmethod for effectively attracting the attention of men: And, all day long the one you want may be picturing your legs in stockings, and dreaming about you ;-)

10. Regularly exercise. At least a 30 minute walk each day, and light weight exercises allow yourself to stay slender and toned. Also cupcakes, for many men, the most attractive part of the female figure is her behind, so don't forget that.

11. Get SLEEP and rest.

12.. Act freely and gracefully. In fact, study the poised, graceful and lady-like ways of moving about, of handling articles, of sitting and rising, and of standing properly and easily. You may even notice that some women will actually fall into a chair like a bag of wheat dropped several feet!

Yet a PERFECTLY POISED AND GRACEFUL lady will gain our admiration by the graceful, poised and easy manner in which the movements of her body are conducted.

All these things are amenable in the eyes of others, and are worth a serious study by any woman who desires to attain the largest measure of success - in not only her professional life, but her personal life.

So, keep your back straight standing, and even if you're sitting in a comfortable chair. Your back should be flat against the chair and your chin slightly raised proudly.

13. Your SENSUALITY should be showing in your sensual gait, your eyes and your smile. Practice walking around swaying your hips, wiggling your behind, and turning around around on your high heels ;-)

As for your GAZE, that may catch a desirable man looking at you, allow your gaze to look at him for about five seconds - to light the spark. This female gaze is the most sexy to men and causes a flame!

Your sensuality should also be showing in the timbre of your voice, and in thesoftness, smoothness and sleekness of your movements.

14. High status men are attracted to a woman with a quiet DISTINCTION AND DIGNITY. A woman who carries herself in a dignified elegance. Be the lady sitting next to the knight! A loud voice is also out. And, you should know your own worth and present yourself accordingly. 

15. Other qualities which create an ideal feminine appearance, as well as attract the attention of men are; serenity, BEAUTIFUL MANNERS, and a thoughtful consideration for others - manifested in everything that that you say and do.

16. There must also be an air of QUEENLY CONFIDENCE & CREDIBILITY about you, which leads your male prospect to determine intuitively that you're a credible and trustworthy woman.

Rarely can this trait be successfully faked either, so make sure that this laudable requisite of femininity is genuine within you.

17. Have a QUEENLY PRESENCE too. In our case, presence is defined as the united personal qualities of a woman - as revealed by her general bearing. The appearance of her whole body - taken as a whole unit- is always significant.

In fact, a woman's general bearing is more eloquent than any movements. It tells others more about her temperament and character too. For that very reason, much of a woman's seductive power depends on her presence. It also goes without saying that presence, or general appearance, is largely affected by dress.

18. To have a man see you as a woman who deserves to be treated with love, respect and AWE, you must first learn to love and respect yourself. Tend to yourself and adore yourself! Such a woman is respected, appreciated and loved by the strong alpha men -who'll give you what you want.

19. Be CONVINCING with your value. Remember doves, a man gives his attention to a woman not just because he's attracted to her, and is interested in her, but also because he becomes convinced by her presence, bearing and of course, by her personality and character.

He becomes convinced that he'll gain a benefit from being with her!

20. Finally cupcakes, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. Within you is the potential and power to lead your male prospect all the way along your road - and all the way to the altar! ;-)

I hope you enjoyed my article; 'How to Get the Attention of Men - 20 Time-tested Tips to Attract the Attention of Men.'

-Art of being feminine-