Cleopatra's Beauty Tips and Secrets - Natural Homemade Beauty Recipes of Cleopatra - and Cleopatra's Beauty Regime

Cleopatra's Beauty Tips and Secrets - Natural Homemade Beauty Recipes of Cleopatra - and Cleopatra's Beauty Regime

Portraits of Queen Cleopatra, living in the first century before Christ, show that she certainly wasn't a ravishing beauty, but she was obviously attractive enough to attract the most inaccessible and formidable men of her time :-) 

Cleopatra also developed the art of self-adornment into a science, aiding her in beguiling her Roman admirers, Caesar and Antony. Moreover, Cleopatra was the first of the high priestesses of an era of cosmetics, and knew enough about the feminine arts of beauty to write a book about it, and to become a STANDARD for feminine beauty!

Not only was Cleopatra a standard for feminine beauty, but all sorts of beauty creams, oils, balms, gels and salts have been based on her. And, on her own dressing-table there undoubtedly would have been countless wooden, alabaster and ivory containers (such as boxes, bottles and vases,) the substances therein designed to add further enchantment to her body. 

In addition, Cleopatra adored anything at all to do with beauty (like many feminine ladies of today *wink*) and had at her disposal a small army of perfumers, wig-makers, and sandal-makers - as well as loyal guardians of the royal wardrobe. Yes doves, Cleopatra certainly adored beauty, and her spirit demanded such beauty also in her homes and surroundings. 

The lotus blossomed on the handle of her spoon, and her wine sparkled in the deep blue calyx of the same flower. The limb of a lion, carved from ivory, probably upheld the couch upon which she slept. And, the ceiling over her bed was probably a starry heaven that rested upon palm tree trunks - each crowned with its graceful tuft of drooping foliage.

In Cleopatra's living areas, Papyrus stems probably rose from the floor to support the azure roof, with birds twittering on the swaying grass-tops.... Perhaps doves and butterflies flitted across the walls too, and the floors were frescoed with the opulent green of rich marsh-grasses - and with fish gliding among their roots! You'd also have probably spotted somewhere a goose, a gazelle and a fox.

Now my feminine lovelies, let's take a look at the beauty tips and secrets, as well at the beauty regime of Cleopatra....

Cleopatra's Beauty Tips and Secrets for Having Beautiful Skin

In Cleopatra's day, the custom of anointing the body with oil, such as ambrette oil (obtained from the seeds of Hibiscus plants,) or fenugreek oil, was essential - due to the hot climate. And, despite Cleopatra's skin being at risk of being constantly scorched by the sun and sand, the beauty of her skin was just AMAZING.

To keep her facial skin clean and beautiful, Cleopatra would wash her face several times a day, using a cleansing cream made of oil and lime (or chalk.) Apple cider vinegar and water was used as a facial rinse, and honey was often applied to her skin as an antibacterial.

Several facial masks were also included in her beauty regime, and were attributed to the superb condition of her skin. The masks were often composed of milk, honey, cucumber, yeast and clay. Warm ass's milk and honey in equal doses was a favorite facial mask of Cleopatra's, as was a clay mask.

To keep her skin smooth and exfoliated, Cleopatra would have her body regularly rubbed and polished with numerous body scrubs – in particular sea salt scrub. Among other ingredients used in Cleopatra's skincare were balsam, cedar, beeswax, calamine, castor oil, aloes, apple cider vinegar, turpentine, goose-fat, dill, fennel, juniper, mint, ginger, antimony, sulfur, red lead and onions.

An effective wrinkle preventative was sometimes applied to Cleopatra's face, and was prepared with beeswax, the gum of frankincense, maringa oil, fermented plant juice and finely ground cyprus grass. Then there was the 'Balm of Mecca,' which was held in the HIGHEST repute by Cleopatra (as well as all the ladies of the East,) and was used in her beauty regime to render the skin incomparably soft and silky smooth.

Every night before going to bed, Cleopatra would anoint her face and neck with Balm of Mecca (or Balsam of Gilead as it's called in the bible,) which is a resinous gum of the 'Commiphora gileadensis' tree. Then, the following morning,  thousands of minute scales would be detached from the skin - from every part in which this precious balm had been applied.

It was also at her bath that Cleopatra anointed herself with this wonderful skincare balm. She'd sit in the bath until she was very warm, then she'd start anointing her face and neck, with an ample and copious ablution - rubbing herself until her skin had fully absorbed the balm. Balm of Mecca would leave Cleopatra's skin incomparably delicate and buttery.

For treating scars, an ointment made from frankincense and honey would be applied daily to the scar. An alternative treatment was to apply a bandage soaked in honey and carob to the scar. 

And, here's some natural homemade skin care recipes for you to incorporate into your own beauty regime; Buttermilk and Fennel Cleansing Milk (for oily skin)

1/2 cup buttermilk
2 tabs of crushed fennel seeds

Heat the milk and fennel seeds on top of a double boiler for 30 minutes. Turn off heat, and let it steep for 2 hours. Cool, strain, and then pour into a bottle and refrigerate. This cleansing milk keeps for 2 weeks. Cleopatra's Sesame Oil-Pulling Cleanser (For Dry Skin)

Apply sesame oil to your face and neck. Then, help to 'pull' and remove the oil from your skin, as well as the makeup from your skin with a washcloth that's been soaked in hot water, and then wrung out. Finish with a apple cider vinegar rinse which is also a wonderful pH Balancer. Cleopatra's Grape Facial (for over-sunned faces)

1 cup of green grapes
1 tsp of honey

Crush the green grapes to a pulp. Add the honey and mix. Apply to a clean, damp face and leave it on for 15 minutes. Rinse well. Cleopatra's Apple Cider Vinegar Rinse (restores the natural pH balance or acid mantle to your skin)

1/4 cup of apple cider vinegar
1 basin filled with warm water

Pour the apple cider vinegar into the warm water. Thoroughly splash your face with the rinse. And, then let your face dry  without using a towel. Acne sufferers should try this also, but be sure to start with a perfectly clean face! Cleopatra's Soothing Cucumber Cream Recipe

1 whole cucumber, unpeeled
1/2 oz of white paraffin
2 oz of sweet almond oil

Cut the cucumber into chunks and purée it in the food processor or blender. Strain the pulp through a strainer lined with cheesecloth. Melt the wax in a small bowl in the top of a glass or enamel double boiler over medium heat. As soon as the wax is melted, slowly add the oil, stirring gently. Add the strained cucumber and blend thoroughly.

Remove the pot from the heat and cover with a clean towel. Let the mixture cool very slowly to prevent crystals from forming in the wax. Then, stir mixture once or twice until cool. When the mixture is completely cool and smooth, store it in a tightly capped glass container in the refrigerator. It will keep for two months.

To use  in your beauty regime, smooth a bit of cream every night around the tender skin of your face and neck. Cleopatra's Royal Rose Face Cream

2 oz of almond oil
1/2 oz of beeswax
4 to 8 drops rose oil
Vitamin E capsule (optional)

Slowly heat the almond oil, beeswax and rose oil. Beeswax is the thickener, so the more you add, the thicker the cream. It's best to start with just a little. If, after the mixture has cooled, you decide you'd like it to be thicker, simply reheat it and add more beeswax. 

If you find that the cream is too thick, simply reheat it and add more almond oil. Moreover, if you'd like to add vitamin E to the cream, cut open a vitamin E capsule and add the gel inside to the cream. Cleopatra's Mud and Yogurt Facial Pack

3 tabs of fuller’s earth
3 tabs of plain yogurt

Mix ingredients to make a paste and then pat onto your face with gentle, upward strokes. Let the face pack dry on your skin for 15 to 20 minutes. Then, rinse off with warm water.
Acne Facial Scrub

2-1/4 tsp of yogurt
1-1/2 tsp of fine salt
1 tsp of brewer’s yeast

Mix the ingredients in a glass bowl. Gently massage into your skin (the salt is the exfoliant.) Rinse with warm water and pat dry. Scented Salt Body Scrub

3 cups of fine sea salt
3/4 cup of olive oil
3/4 cup of sweet almond oil
Essential oils (as desired)
Mix salt, olive oil, and almond oil in a glass bowl. Add an essential oil, such as peppermint, for scent. Store in a tightly sealed glass jar. Massage a tablespoon or two of the scrub onto your skin, massaging in small circles. Leave to sit on your skin for at least five minutes. Then, rinse.
Cleopatra's Mint Souffle Mask (for tired skin)

1 tab of ground or powdered spearmint
1 tab of good cold-pressed oil
1 tab of honey

Whirl in the blender until fluffy. Apply to clean skin. Cleopatra's Antiseptic Honey Mask

1 egg yolk
2 tabs of honey
10 drops of almond oil

Whip until creamy. Store any extra in the refrigerator – and a wide-mouth jar for future use. Cucumber Facial Mask (for oily skin)

1/2 cucumber
1 egg white
1 tab of lemon juice
1 tsp of mint

Puree everything and refrigerate for 10 minutes. Apply the mixture to your face and leave it on 15 minutes. Rinse with hot then cool water. Cure-All Moisturizer

Straight olive oil is a very good moisturizer and serves multiple purposes. However, if you can’t stand the smell, add a few drops of essential oil. To soften your cuticles, dip a cotton ball in some olive oil, and then dab on tops of your fingernails and rub in. Moreover, for a great split ends treatment, shampoo your hair, and use olive oil in place of conditioner on ends only. Then, rinse thoroughly with warm water.

Cleopatra's Beauty Tips and Secrets for Comfort, Hygiene and Cleanliness

Since cleanliness was so highly regarded by Cleopatra, taking a bath was one of the most important daily beauty regimes for her, and she bathed frequently. In addition, Cleopatra kept her skin soft and beautiful by regularly bathing in ass's milk and honey. 

**And, since the smell of milk and honey represents sweetness and youth, it can also suggest 'delicious young woman!' 

Now cupcakes, to make a  modern-day version of the Cleopatra milk and honey bath, dissolve a cup of honey in a liter of hot (not boiled) milk, and then pour the mixture into the bath. Dry milk powder can also be added to the bath. 

Ideally, the temperature of the bath should be 36-37 degrees, and the bath taken for 10-15 minutes.

Here's some bath more recipes; Cleopatra's Milk and Honey Bath 

1 cup of honey
2 cups of milk
1 cup of sea salt
1/4 cup of baking soda
1/2 cup of red turkey oil
Rose or jasmine essential/fragrance oil

Combine the honey, milk, salt and baking soda in a bowl. Then, fill your bathtub with warm water and pour in the mixture. Then, add the red turkey oil and a few drops of fragrance. Minty Watermelon Bath Oil

1/2 cup of castor oil
1/2 teaspoon of spearmint oil
1/2 teaspoon of watermelon fragrance oil

Simply blend all three ingredients together by shaking them up in a jar. Then it's ready to use. This is a very refreshing and mind-easing blend :-) Cleopatra's Cleansing Honeyed Bath Salts

1 1/2 cups of Epsom Salts (or rock sea salt)
1/3 cup of liquid honey
2 drops of yellow food coloring
3 drops essential oil (optional, as honey gives off a nice sweet scent)

Take the salts and place them in a bowl with the honey. Stir them together very well (however, it will seem a little sticky!) Add your two drops of yellow food coloring to the essential oil - if you choose to use it. Oils that are good would be juniper, rose or jasmine. Then, take the oil and color mixture, and stir it into the salts, and cover in a bowl for about 30 minutes.

Use 1/4 cup of recipe for each bath, drop into hot running water. Queen Cleopatra's Romance and Passion Bath Oil

4 drops of ylang ylang oil
4 drops of frankincense oil
4 drops of jasmine oil
4 drops of sandalwood oil
4 drops of rose otto oil

Measure out the ingredients as needed above, drop by drop, and placing them under the flow of your warm running bath water. Then cupcakes, light a few candles, relax and allow your mind to clear of all other thoughts, and just let your senses stimulate your thoughts, as well as to warm your body, mind and soul! Cleopatra's Silky Facial and Bath Recipe

Ingredients for the facial;

1 cup of fresh cucumber juice
1/4 cup of honey
1/2 cup of plain yogurt
6 drops of sandalwood

Mix the ingredients well and apply to your face just before the bath...

Ingredients for the bath;

8 drops of jasmine essential oil
8 drops of fennel essential oil
2 tbsp of jojoba oil

Light a candle, step into the bath and  rellaaaax....
Cleopatra's Stimulating Bath Salts

3 tabs of sea salt
3 tabs of baking soda
8 drops of essential oils (choose 3 or 4 oils from these essential oils: cardamom, cinnamon, nutmeg, ginger, clove, fennel, cypress, pine, spruce, juniper, spearmint, peppermint or thyme.)
A 4 oz jar

Add the sea salt, baking soda and oils to a jar. Gently shake to mix well.

And, here's a home-made beauty recipe for cooling the body doves; Cleopatra's Cooling Foot and Body Powder

This light, fragrant powder absorbs moisture and fights bacteria – to eradicate perspiration and body odor. It also has an antiseptic and antifungal action.

Ingredients;

1/2 cup of powdered arrowroot
1/2 cup of cosmetic clay
2 tbs of powdered ginger
10 drops of spearmint essential oil
10 drops of tea tree essential oil

Instructions;

In a large jar, combine the arrowroot, cosmetic clay and ginger. Cover and shake to mix. Add the peppermint and tea tree essential oils and shake again. You may want to sift the powder through a fine mesh strainer to break up any drops of oil. Store in a covered, dark glass jar (will keep indefinitely.) Apply as needed to feet or body. 

Cleopatra Beauty Tips and Secrets for Having Beautiful Eyes

Cleopatra had beautiful, dark, almond-shaped eyes, which were always outlined with an application of black kohl - or with green malachite. The outline would be applied with a round-ended stick – made from materials such as obsidian, haematite or bronze. 

Or it would be applied with the paint bottle's stopper, elongated into a stem to be dipped into the paint. Her eyelids and brows were also enhanced with moistened kohl powder – increasing the beauty and appearance of her eyes by making them look larger.

Another cosmetic used by Cleopatra for enhancing her eyes was black sulphide of antimony (mestem,) and she used this eye-paint to darken her eyebrows and eyelashes. The mestem was rubbed into the edges of the lids and the lashes, then followed the painting of the lower lid and eyebrow. Moreover, Cleopatra believed that eye-paint was an effective preventative for certain diseases of the eye.

As a part of Cleopatra's beauty regime, an overnight eye treatment consisting of goose fat and kohl would be also applied to the eyelids. Or a special paste prepared from galena, lapis lazuli, malachite, honey, ochre and ore was applied. This eye treatment was kept in little bags of linen or leather, and had to be ground on a palette into a fine powder. Then, the powder would be poured into vases or tube-shaped containers - from which it would be extracted and applied with a thin stick.

A favorite eye wash that Cleopatra used was prepared from ground celery and hemp. Moreover, to  cool and soothe her eyes, a concoction of ground jasper or serpentine, mixed with water, would be applied to the eyelids. An alternative preparation was made with ground carob and fermented honey.

However, Cleopatra knew that nothing made the eyes more brighter or more beautiful than falling in love! Hence the old Egyptian love poem that went like this; 

“Like eye-paint is my desire. When I see you, it makes my eyes sparkle.” 

Cleopatra's Beauty Tips and Secrets for Having Beautiful Nails, Hands and Feet

Cleopatra regularly gilded her nails, as well as the palms of her hands and soles of her feet with an orange or red color – made from henna leaves. Beautiful geometric designs were also applied to her hands and feet with henna.

Cleopatra's Beauty Tips and Secrets for Having Beautiful Lips and Cheeks

Cleopatra loved to highlight her lips with a vivid red lip color, applying the color with a small cosmetics brush (much like the women of today.) Or, with a little spatula, she'd apply tinted lip gloss. However, in those days tinted lip gloss was made from red ochre and fat - or from one of the plants used for dyeing.

In addition, to give a lovely glow to her cheeks, Cleopatra had rouge applied to her cheeks – made from red ochre, fat and gull resin.

Cleopatra's Beauty Tips and Secrets for Beautiful Breasts

For natural breast enhancement, Cleopatra would massage her breasts with a breast serum containing fennel, fenugreek and dill. These herbs also contain phytoestrogens; natural plant hormones that mimic the estrogen that's found in a woman's body. 

Estrogen is also the sex hormone that's responsible for having a healthy reproductive system, as well as for promoting optimum growth in the body. The functions of estrogens can be duplicated by phytoestrogens too, and if you use breast serums containing them, you can experience the growth of breast tissue.

Cleopatra's Beauty Tips and Secrets for Smelling Divine

From Arabia, traders came to Cleopatra on camels, laden with myrrh, frankincense etc. And, Queen Cleopatra always smelled divine around her man; ONE breath.... and then the endless embrace!

Cleopatra not only loved the art and mystery of compounding perfumes for her personal use, but for medical and physiological use - as perfumes were believed to possess great medicinal, as well as physiological virtues. 

So naturally, Cleopatra would use certain aromatics to influence men; to make them feel comfortable in her presence, to increase their enchantment, or to become submissive! 

Or, to bring back the precious moment of an exotic night *wink*

How  exacting Cleopatra had to be in choosing her perfumes as well; the only scent, for the only one.....In particular, Cleopatra loved the rose, jasmine and myrrh perfumes, and her hair was lavishly perfumed too - yet another component of her feminine attractiveness. 

In fact, Cleopatra used perfumes and aromatics just about everywhere - at great cost and in great profusion! In addition, perfumes made from iris, lotus, frankincense, sandalwood, cinnamon and Mignonette were often used.

The oldest of all surviving perfume trade-marks is the ancient Egyptian name of 'Kyphi.' Kyphi was the most sacred of all the religious fragrances, and every night it was offered by the priests in their temples. However, for Cleopatra, Kyphi was not confined to the gods.

In addition, to repel body odor, she's rub little pellets of ground carob and essential oils onto her skin. She also placed little balls of incense where her limbs met.

Here's a wonderful perfume recipe for you to try doves; Cleopatra's Oriental Nights Perfume (contains natural plant pheromones)

4 drops of sandalwood essential oil
3 drops of frankincense essential oil
4 drops of musk fragrance oil
2 tsp of jojoba oil

Mix all the ingredients together in a small bottle and shake well. Allow the perfume to settle for at least 12 hours. Store in a cool dry place. Use with caution ;-)

And, a bonus Scent recipe;
Cleopatra's Sexual Energy Oil (also contains natural plant pheromones!)

2 drops of cardamom
4 drops of ginger
5 drops of patchouli
4 drops of sandalwood
Dilute in 1/2 oz carrier oil. 

Cleopatra's Beauty Tips and Secrets for Having Beautiful Hair

Cleopatra was very proud of their hair, and dressed it with numerous ornamented combs and pins. Delicately-carved ivory combs kept Cleopatra's tresses sleek and untangled. And, any hairstyle, whether it involved waves, curls or braids, would be kept firmly in place with a setting lotion - made from beeswax and resin. 

Moreover, for special festive occasions, or to protect her hair from the heat of the sun, Cleopatra would wear various wigs and hairpieces made from human hair.

However, despite being a fan of elaborate wigs and hairpieces, Cleopatra still aimed to keep her own natural hair in good condition. And, Egyptian women happened to be so proud of their hair, that when their hair got very long, locks of it would be cut off and then wrapped up for safe keeping - to be buried in their tomb after death.

There were also unguents for preventing grey hairs from appearing– such as an unguent made from the black horn of a gazelle. A unguent to cover grey hairs was made from oil mixed with juniper berries and two unidentified plants. The astringent properties of juniper also stimulated the scalp. 

Moreover, the hair-dye used by Cleopatra is credited to Schesch, the mother of Teta, who was the wife of the first King of Egypt. This is also the oldest known prescription for hair-dye!

In order to make her hair grow faster, Cleopatra had chopped lettuce placed on her scalp, or the scalp was anointed with equal parts of cedar-wood oil and fat. She also used deep conditioning hair treatments in  her beauty regime. And, here's a recipe; Cleopatra's Honey Treatment for Dry Damaged Hair

3 tabs of honey
1 tablespoon of good oil (such as olive, coconut or avocado oil, which have been proven to  penetrate into the cortex of the hair.)

Combine the homey and the oil, and stir for a minute or so until the mixture is smooth. Apply to freshly shampooed hair, and then let soak in for 10-12 minutes. Rinse off the hair conditioning treatment with plenty of warm water. Hot Oil Treatment for Hair

1 tsp of olive oil
2 tsp of castor oil

Combine the ingredients and warm over a low heat. Then, massage the hot oil treatment into your scalp, as well as all over your hair. Once you're done, wrap your hair in a hot towel and relax with it on your head for at least 15 minutes. Shampoo and rinse out. Frizz Tamer for Hair

1/2 cup of any hair conditioner
1/4 cup of honey
1 tbs of almond oil

Mix the ingredients well, then pour the mixture over damp hair, working it in well. Leave it on for about 30 minutes for a really good deep conditioning. Wash out with shampoo.

Cleopatra's Beauty Tips and Secrets for Having Hair-free Skin

Part of Cleopatra's beauty regime involved removing body hair with a razor, although a number of hair removal creams were sometimes used for the same purpose. One such cream consisted of the crushed and boiled bones of a particular bird, that were then mixed with cucumber, gum, oil and sycamore juice. 

The mixture would be heated and then applied to the body hairs, presumably to be pulled off when cold, with the hair adhering to it. Tweezers were also used for removing individual hairs.

Cleopatra's Beauty Tips and Secrets for Having Fresh Breath

To improve and perfume the breath, Cleopatra chewed cachous pastilles. These pastilles were prepared from kyphi (an incense made from honey, wine, myrrh, raisins, junipers, fig leaves, clover, cardamom, sorrel, calamus, galange, rosin, aspalathus, mastich amd asphalt. 

Alternative breath freshening remedies were to chew frankincense and herbs, or to chew a piece of mastich branch.

Now, here's a lovely mouth wash recipe for you doves that's good to use before kissing your man *giggles* Cleopatra's Rose and Honey Mouth Wash

2 oz of dried red rose leaves 
8 oz of rose-water 
6 oz of clarified honey
Immerse the rose leaves in the water, and heat gently on the stove for two hours. Strain and add the honey. This is a very pleasant and useful wash/gargle for the mouth. It also soothes a sore throat.

And, an ideal wash for the mouth and teeth;

1 oz of camphor
1 pint of rectified spirit
Tincture of myrrh
10 drops of spearmint essential oil

This is an excellent and convenient wash for cleansing the teeth and for scenting the breath.








-The art of being feminine-

OLIVE OIL MOISTURIZER- The BEST natural moisturizer for me...

This natural skin moisturizer is good for most all skin types and helps protect he skin from drying out….especially while we sleep. The nice thing about olive oil moisturizer is that it’s inexpensive and does not have an overpowering smell as some homemade moisturizers do.

If you do decide use to olive oil as a night time moisturizer, be sure to buy a quality brand and one that’s not exposed to the light – like in glass jars. Since this oil will last much longer (because you use less) than your olive oil for cooking, it has a higher chance of becoming oxidize and rancid. Storing it in a glass jar allows light to penetrate and will speed the oxidation process. So whenever possible try to purchase pure, organic/extra virgin or light olive oil in the smallest tin you can find.

How To Apply Olive Oil Moisturizer

Always apply to freshly cleansed skin and try to apply while your skin is still a little damp. Just pore a tiny amount into the palm of your hand and rub your hands together to spread it out. Then gently pat your entire face from forehead all the way down to your neck and don’t forget your chest too. This area is often overlooked, but show your age very quickly if not taken care of.

Homemade Moisturizer Masks – Olive Oil Moisturizer

For extra dry skin or just to pamper yourself once in a while consider making homemade moisturizer masks using olive oil.
Olive Oil Pineapple Mask - This is a great mask to not only hydrate the skin but naturally exfoliate dead skin cells and clean out your pores. Pineapple contains bromeliad which is a natural digestive enzyme and will help “eat” away all the dead skin cells and dirt. Pineapple is also has great anti-inflammatory properties so it’s good to use on acne prone skin.

To make the mask combine the following:

• 1 cup of pineapple chunks. Make sure to rinse off the syrup first.
• Then apply 3-4 tablespoons of olive oil
• You can mash the pineapple chunks with a fork or even better put every into a blender and blend until smooth.
• Then apply the mask to your face, neck, and chest and lie down and rest for 20 minutes or so.
• Then rinse very well – this is best to do before a shower – and pat dry.

Olive Oil Moisturizer – Day Time Alternative

While olive oil moisturizer is a great natural skin moisturizer for the nighttime, it’s much too greasy to use during the day – especially if you have oily skin or during hot summer months. However, if you’re like me you probably have a hard time finding a good hydrating moisturizer that’s perfect to use during the or under makeup.
I’ve been disappointed with many of the moisturizers on the market today because they either have poor ingredients -- like cheap oil and water leaving you with greasy skin and clogged pores. Or they're loaded with chemicals whose name I can’t even pronounce let alone know what they are for. But I do know many companies use chemicals in their moisturizers to help preserve and extend shelf life.

And from the research I’ve done I found that some of these chemical might even be dangerous. One recent study I came across suggested that chemicals found in some common moisturizers might cause skin cancer. In this study, researcher from Rutgers University exposed hairless mice to UVB light to mimic normal sun exposure. After the exposure, the mice were treated with four popular moisturizers. Follow this link to read more about Face Moisturizer Safety.

A good moisturizer should be natural and nontoxic and should nourish the skin and keep it hydrated all day. It should not only moisturize but keep it healthy too. As a health advisor for over 25 years, I always try to recommend natural skin care products whenever possible. One of the best moisturizers that I have found is ZenMed H-Series Natural Moisturzer.

This effective, yet natural elixir moisturizer helps rejuvenate aging skin with plant essences and herbal extracts. It's very soothing and creamy and women and men just love it. In addition, it contains organic ingredients like aloe and green tea. In addition, this very effective anti-aging skin care moisturizer that’s also great for acne, rosacea, and other problem skin because it’s hypoallergenic, wont’ irritate the skin or clog pores. 






-Wrinkle-free skin tips-

The Problem with the Words “I’m Sorry” – Saying sorry.

Many would tell you these are the two most important words in relationship, and that saying sorry is very important. Some will tell you that you should use these words more, rather than less.

My response is: “really?”

I disagree. The words “I’m sorry” are relatively unimportant for the long-term, in your relationships. Many women use these words too much. Women also have this tendency to feel guilty too often; thus the use of the phrase “I’m sorry” (though this is not true for all).

I don’t think there is such a thing as using the words “I’m sorry” too little – I think rather, that there is such a thing as caring too little to make a change or to treat your partner better.

Many women lash out and cut deep with their words, and then torture themselves with guilt. And then say sorry. And then lash out, and cup deep with their words, and then torture themselves with guilt. And then say sorry. And then lash out with their words, and then….

The pattern still exists. The same thing happens, continuosly, over and over. You have to break the pattern, and develop alternative ways to deal with a problem, or even a new authentic temperament.

You’ll find a larger proportion of women than men in the feeling guilty clan. Men feel it too, yes. But they don’t generally live in this emotion as much as women.

Sorry as a cover up.

The words I am sorry are often used as a cover-up. I’ve done it before, and I’ve seen others do it too – this is how I know. The words “I’m sorry” are often just that – just words. Words in themselves mean little without true resolve to change something, or to do better next time.

There was a time in my relationship where I had not treated my man fairly, and I was saying sorry – and in the middle of it, I had to stop myself. Later, I thought hard about it. I thought hard about the words and why I was really saying them.

I came to a conclusion that, throughout my life, in certain relationships, I had said I was sorry out of a need to re-gain the other person’s acceptance. And to desperately try and re-salvage lost connection. In other words, I was still coming from a wholly selfish place.

Do you know what I mean?

It’s like, I hurt the other person to start off with, and now I want to take even MORE from them by hoping that my apology will bring them closer to me?! This is fickle.

Sorry as a way of serving guilt

So, after stopping myself midway through the apology, I started to ask myself what would be a better way of doing things. I realised that, often, the words “I’m sorry” were helpful (depending on who the person is, and what they value), but never made the REAL difference in repairing something I’d done that was hurtful.

The real difference goes something like this: we mess up somehow; and act in a way that is less than authentic and less than acceptable.

And rather than hating yourself for it; rather than grieving, rather than indulging in guilt, the better thing to do would be to even say nothing at all, but to truly listen to the other person’s pain, and their experience. And just be with them. Whether it’s your man, your mom, your sister, your best friend, or your colleague.

Once I’ve done that, from a place of honesty and sincerity, as a true woman, it is a must to proceed to grow and to love greater. This means that reparing lost trust is purely YOUR responsibility – Up until a point where it’s clear that the other person isn’t interested in trusting you at all anymore. IF that even happens. Which is rare. In most cases, a person who is hurt just wants you to care more, and love them more. Even if they seem to be pushing you away.

Just to clarify for the purposes of this post, caring and/or ‘loving’ someone ‘more’ doesn’t have to mean that you suffocate them, but that you come from a place of authenticity and you place yourself wholly in their shoes, and listen and care – without question. No strings attached!!

Putting “I’m sorry” in to context…

That being said, for a small few, I believe that there are a number of people who say sorry authentically. And of course, it’s possible to say sorry purely out of 100% consideration, compassion and love for the other person.

I think that the words “I’m sorry” said in this way takes a high level of selflessness.

Childhood conditioning…

The problem for many is that as children, we had mommy or daddy take us by the hand, lead us up to little Johnny or Sarah, and force us to say “I’m sorry” when we broke their toy or called them a meanie. Even when we didn’t want to say sorry. Even when we didn’t mean it. Even when it wasn’t coming from the right place in our hearts.

And this is ingrained in to us over and over and over and over throughout our childhood until it became a natural and subconcious reaction to something. Sometimes, as a matter of etiquette, saying “sorry!” is fine.

For example, if you step on someone’s unsuspecting toes on a crowded bus, it’s only good to say “oh sorry!!!” Because you don’t know that person as well; you’re less likely to be in a long-term relationship with them, and it’s good manners to do so. Just to indicate some consideration towards them.

The words I’m sorry are not as important as our intentions, our resolve, and what we have to give. Some people just say they are sorry because they feel they have to.

What is more important than sorry?

Honestly, there are a number of things that are more important, and will have a greater effect and influence upon your relationship and life than using the “I’m sorry” phrase. I’ll list a few below:

- Working on yourself. Constantly striving to strip away your fears and masks so that you can present yourself with authenticity and character. When you do this, you’ll often say the words from a place of total authenticity, and they will MEAN more to the other person.

- A humble intent.

- Your actions in the long-term, after the thing you did or said that may or may not have caused hurt to the other person.

- True compassion.

-The Feminine Woman-

What Most Women Don’t Know About Finding and Keeping the Man of Their Dreams

There’s a myth that all you need to do is be a nice girl or a “good person”, and then, everything you want will follow, and line up for you. Including a handsome prince who adores you.

This, in fact, is untrue. Don’t you know of anyone who is a really nice person, and yet still didn’t get what they “deserved” in life, their career, or their love life? I do. If I had a gold coin for every time I heard someone say: “why do BAD things happen to GOOD people?!” Do you know how rich I’d be?

So, the conventional idea of just being a good person is enough really needs to be challenged. Perhaps there is another path; a secret path or a forbidden rule of success in dating and relationships that we are never told because it’s taboo. Remarkable men and loving husbands don’t come in to your life and STAY in your life without an enormous commitment on your part. Commitment to continuously being the kind of woman who that kind of man would want to be with.

So this means there can be no: “this is how I am, accept me or leave”. Or “This is how I am – deal with it”.

Is there a shortage of GOOD men?

Many single women bemoan the fact that there aren’t enough good men. This ONLY needs to be true for you if:

1) You SETTLE for this belief; or

2) You are not showing up as the kind of woman who is sure to attract the man of your dreams.

If YOU do not take the time to see the good in men, you are settling for a false sense of superiority. People in this position tend to be quite self-righteous. I hear it all the time from men and women: “oh, I don’t see why a woman WOULDN’T like me.” “Oh, men are PIGS.”

YOU will only attract mediocre men when dating or a medicore man out of your current partner if YOU don’t push against resistance and do whatever it takes to get the relationship or man of your dreams. People end up in unfulfilling relationships because they have medicore standards. Life does not reward people with mediocre standards.

And I’m not talking about the kind of standards that lead you to say “oh well, I have high standards for men!” And be really proud of it and then you sit on your butt and do nothing. WAITING never got anybody anywhere.

No-one ever got a good man for just bitching and whining. And if we did, we didn’t 100% deserve it, and some other force came in to challenge us more. These challenges can come in many different forms. And for anyone who has ever been overly “lucky”, there have ALWAYS been forces coming from the opposite direction, challenging them to grow and attempting to make things harder.

Strong timber is not developed unless met with the resistance of strong winds.

If it was not like this, it would be easy. And if it was easy, everyone would have a fulfilling relationship for the long-term. And if everyone had an ultimately fulfilling relationship, then the fulfilling relationship would be devalued.

Some women let good men go or force men away, because of a lack of humility (among other things). A lack of character. One must push through resistance to grow, and to become MORE as a woman, so that you can attract a good or better man. And when you DO do this, guess what happens? You suddenly become DESERVING of this good man.

The rule of success…

This is the taboo solution. The forbidden rule of success, as simplistic as it may sound. This is what most people would rather not hear, and most parents would rather not tell their children. After all, it produces a much warmer and fuzzier feeling to hear that it would just all come together for us if we were just nice, good people.

The truth is that it’s not enough to just be a ‘good’ person. You can be a ‘good’ person or a ‘nice’ girl, but have poor standards. A poor outlook on relationships.

Like anything in life; once you begin to do something, to strive for something such as the ultimate fulfilling relationship – you will be met with resistance. And as you continue toprogress on this path, resistance will become more and more apparent.

So, as difficult as it may be for some women, if you tend to complain about being single, or complain about your husband or boyfriend being lousy – it’s time to stop complaining and raise the standards you have for yourself. If you will change, everything will change for you.

Even if you attract a wonderful man and fall in love, 3-9 months down the track, when all the fuzzy feelings wear off, you’re going to have to find a way to grow and keep this relationship with this person you love so much. Again, if it was all so easy, we would all have it.

If you are single, feel lonely and want to throw in the towel or kick and scream; presist. The man you want won’t come until you truly deserve him. Then, you will attract him. If you are one of the lucky few who has met a good man and simply been LUCKY – you must raise your standards, too. Because maintenance takes growth. Maintenance itself only happens when you keep growing. We are always either moving forward or sliding backwards.

It’s like having good money management: if you do not invest, your money is being devalued, year after year.

Here is a quick example:

If you are a 10 out of 10 woman – will you date a man who is a 5/10? And I don’t mean looks. The answer is of course, a No. Because you know you deserve better. Not only this, but you would naturally ATTRACT better.

JUST maintaining the status quo is not an option if you want the best. Whether that be in your relationship or in your life in general. You must always be bringing more to your current situation; to be improving it.

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Warning: Pick Your Friends Carefully

Do you have any dreams? Do you have wishes? Any desires or planned outcomes? Do you have any goals in life? And do you have anyone around you who’s pulling you away from your goals and desires?

Do you have in mind the kind of relationship you’d like to have?

Do you have a picture in mind, of who you would like to be, represent or become?

Now…..who do you spend most of your time with? Who is in your friendship group? Who is your closest friend?

We all eventually become like who we spend our time with. It’s subconscious, it’s under the radar and it has a huge impact on our lives. So much so, that it will determine whether we’ll end up happy or depressed, wealthy or poor, healthy or sick. Your influences are infinitely important!

Yes, that means that if you persistently hang around a bunch of rude, angry people, you will eventually end up rude and angry. Yes, this also means that if you hang around overweight, unfit people, eventually, you will become overweight and unfit, too.

Haven’t you ever been with a close friend or boyfriend/husband, and you both said the same thing at the same time? Or were thinking the exact same thing?

I know of a woman (a friend of a friend) who spends a lot of time with her significant other. One night, they were asleep in bed together, and she woke up from a dream she had had, only to find her husband had awoken from exactly the same dream.

You’ve seen couples who look alike, right? In some close couples, this is particularly apparent in their later years. They have the same facial expressions and mannerisms.

We all do this subconsciously, as a way to feel more connected to the people around us. Especially the ones who mean the most to us.

There is a story of how a group of women living together in the same place/environment for a while; eventually find their menstrual cycles become synchronised. This has been known as the McClintock Effect.

If you’re on this blog, you are most likely a woman who values growth to an extent. You are most likely a woman who values learning and becoming more. You probably also understand and appreciate the value of becoming closer to your feminine core, and becoming more woman. If, however, you spend lots of time hanging around with people who primarily value certainty (comfort), and prefer to keep the status quo, then forget about your dreams, because these friends will bring you down.

One of the fastest ways to get to where you want to go – to become who you want to become, is to surround yourself with people who are already where you want to be. If you surround yourself with what some would term ‘shallow’ and/or egocentric women who are bitchy; you’ll end up becoming like that, too.

Who do you think most people like to make friends with? People who are at the same level as them, or below them. So that they feel good about themselves.

Don’t hang around people who don’t honor your dreams, your soul and what your represent purely to settle for SOME sort of connection.

We all need love but most of us will settle just for connection. Are you in a friendship group where you can’t share your true passions? Are you passionate about becoming a truly feminine yet strong woman, but afraid to share this with your friends?

Today, make a promise to yourself: honor yourself and choose your friends carefully, because you will become who you spend your time with.

-The Feminine Woman-