How to Be a Goddess - Part One

 How to Be a Goddess - Part One

Doves, the next few posts are going to talk about how to be a goddess-like woman, and how to cultivate the kind of feminine beauty that enables you to stand out from the SEA of women. Let's begin.... 
To become truly beautiful and to be a 'GODDESS,' a woman must make it a habit to thinkbeautiful thoughts. Without a doubt, a woman's beautiful heart and soul illuminates the face with an indescribable charm and radiance! 
As YOU get into the habit of thinking beautiful thoughts, you'll also notice that charm and radiance, and that a gradual positive change is starting to take place in the general expression of your face.
As for a woman's facial expressions, the set expressions of her face have been formed by the thoughts that have been most entertained by her mind. And even though a single thought or emotion may have no noticeable effect on a woman's face, a repetition of thoughts become a mental habit, and they produce really APPARENT physical results. 
And each time the cells of the body renew themselves (about every three to four months,) the prevailing thoughts can be emphasized even more strongly in the physical appearance. It's also interesting that many believe that our thoughts are continually rebuilding the physical body at the molecular renewal. 
So, if you feel that your present beauty is below the ideal standard, you don't have to remain a slave to your present appearance, you can CHANGE it! 
In addition, practically any woman can, by thinking the right kind of thoughts and using the right kind of beauty aids (you can find those here; How to be Beautiful With the Feminine Arts ) create so much feminine beauty and power, that in a few months, a real physical TRANSFORMATION will have occurred!
If you're feeling doubt that the face expresses in beauty or ugliness the thoughts of the mind, stand in front of a mirror and think unpleasant thoughts. Even imagine feelings of hate and revenge towards something, or envy, and watch your facial expression. Note the hard cruel lines, and see if you can find a single BEAUTIFUL feature! 
Then, change your thoughts to LOVE, compassion and kindness, and behold my feminine lovelies, the softening of the lines of your face, as well as the tender expression of your eyes and mouth. There may also appear a difference so marked, that it could forever answer the question of how to be a goddess and unlock one of the best-kept secrets of true feminine beauty! 
In addition, if you let your mind continue to hold ugly thoughts, your face will hold an ugly expression. But if you let your mind entertain only pure, beautiful thoughts instead (especially toward others,) your face will continually EXPRESS that beauty. And bypersistently sending out beautiful thoughts you construct permanent beauty within yourself - and become a goddess!
So, to look and feel beautiful cupcakes, you must BE beautiful *smile* 
Even the simplest acts of your daily life reveals your mental attitude. To expect to cultivate feminine beauty without trying to make your thoughts, words and actions beautiful would prove to be a failure - as well as reveal insincerity, shallowness and a love of artifical display.
Essentially, feminine loveliness is a form of true feminine beauty, and loveliness is a likeness of love. Therefore, as feminine women and 'goddesses' it's essential that we express love and kindness towards everyone we meet. Remember too doves, that every thought of hate, envy, jealousy or revenge that we allow to take possession of us destroys our feminine beauty. 
Shun such ugly thoughts as you would a poisonous snake! However, an ugly and evil thought is probably far more dangerous than a snake is, for one evil thought attractsanother in rapid succession.

Many of those women who possess this knowledge, whether consciously or unconsciously, already express a goddess-like beauty of face and form. And s YOU behold the beauty around you, why not mentally affirm to yourself that you'll be as beautiful or more so? For beauty is a woman's natural birthright. 
So my darlings, claim the beauty of nature as your own! You're a part of nature, and you become an even more prominent part by cooperating with its laws. Moreover, feminine beauty is natural, and the lack of it indicates some abnormal relationship to nature. 
And of course many say that ugliness of the body doesn't matter if one has a beautiful heart and soul. But let me tell you doves, that this condition can't really exist, for a beautiful heart and soul will illuminate a body with its own kind of beauty - the body only being a natural expression of the heart and soul.

-Art of Being Feminine-

7 Steps To Instant Poise

“Poise is a power derived from the Mastery of Self”

A woman who is poised is not easy to come by. Perhaps she was 30, 40, 50 + years ago. But such a woman is not too common these days. A feminine woman is often the epitome of grace, elegance and poise.

The definition of poise is: ‘A graceful and elegant bearing; composure of dignity and manner’.

The only negative thing about women who are traditionally poised, is that sometimes this poise tends to surface accompanied by a sense of rigidity. Femininity is not about being rigid, and no feminine woman should be tight and stringent in her manner and/or life. Some women who are traditionally ‘poised’ take themselves too seriously, and take the issue of poise too far.

Truly feminine women have a beautiful quality of spontaneity and freedom. Feminine energy flows with the energy of life. It is sometimes chaotic, sometimes calm, and at other times, even melancholy and dark.

“Composure”; being a part of the definition of poise, needs to be considered. Sometimes, people who are composed border on stoical; and this is not ideal. Yes, there is a time and place for composure – but it’s important not to take this overboard. Even if you are seeking to be poised, you can take the issue of composure lightly.

Feminine women are real – above all else. So whilst a woman needs to be composed at times, it’s important that she is able to go with the flow of life. Femininity also involves an element of irrationality – and some people (men and women included), make this wrong. It’s not wrong. Again, chaos is a typical trait of the feminine energy. This is where a woman’s ‘ocean of emotion’ comes in to it. 

So, poise is important – but poise comes from a deeply assured sense of self, and authenticity. A woman who ‘needs’ to compose herself may have one too many unresolved contradictions and insecurities within her. There’s nothing wrong with this, but poise should not be taken to mean, or appear to be, a ‘forced’ sense of dignity, self-respect and elegance.

So here are some steps to achieving instant poise:

1) Poise is, more than anything else, a result of plenty of self-confidence.Acknowledge that your purpose is not to ‘appear’ self-assured and poised, but to be truly and actually poised, from deep within – where you harbor an unshakable sense of certainty and self-confidence.

I do believe in the saying “fake it until you make it”. Because when you put yourself in the ‘state’ of doing something you don’t feel you actually know how to do, but ‘pretend’ as if you do – momentum ensues, and often, the ability to do the thing you want to do follows.

So if you do lack self-confidence, and aren’t so assured – think: ‘What would I do in this situation if I DID know what to do?’ 

Self-confidence is your friend when it comes to achieving poise. They go hand-in-hand. If you are self-confident, it’s much easier to go with the flow, be strong (in a feminine way) and become able to deal with any situation that arises. Particularly unfavorable situations, such as being late for a meeting, a friend betraying you, and being strong for others and having to show support and be relied upon when your own life seems like it’s falling apart.

Poise is about knowing your value despite the circumstances.

2) Face your fears and forgive yourself for past mistakes, no matter how big they are. Even a woman who has acted ‘cheap’ in the past can achieve poise.

A lot of women have done things in their past that they regret, that were less than graceful, respectable and poised – and as a result they “lock” themselves in to one particular identity – and therefore, so does everybody else! If you do it, so will everybody else. However, if you act like a graceful and elegant woman who is poised, and believe in it, other people will, too!

If anyone is going to give you respect (something that often ensues when you are a poised and graceful woman), you have to give it to yourself first, and you need to acknowledge your past mistakes, know that you are human and that most of us have a skeleton or two in our closet. I certainly have a couple.

But just because you did a certain thing in the past, or acted a certain way, or made a certain mistake – doesn’t preclude you from joining the ranks of poised and graceful ladiesnow, and in the future.

Forgive yourself – learn from your mistakes and ease in to grace, elegance and poise. No mistake or memory of a mistake in your life has truly earned its place until you learn from it and continue to love yourself despite.

3) Be honest but not blunt. Care for other people, and consider others when you are asked for feedback, your opinion, or put in a difficult or challenging situation.If you have an urge to act impulsively (which is not always a bad thing, but it is when you’re going to be nasty, critical or inconsiderate of another person’s emotions) – wait a moment.

It is better to pause and think your actions and responses through than to act impulsively. Again, I love women who act impulsively and who are unpredictable – but there is a time for this. If you’re in a serious situation, such as in a work or corporate environment, or are put in a difficult position or awkward moment by friends, family or strangers, it’s important to think things through before you act and cause any extra problems for yourself and others.

Expressing your opinion is important, but it is imperative to do it with class, integrity and modesty.

4) Avoid a scarcity mindset. Have you ever gone to a food hall, or a food court, and it’s packed – you are looking for a seat, and you finally see one, so you calmly walk over with your plate of food – only to have some rude, crass and disrespectful person sprint to the seat before you?

Not only is it frustrating, but it’s just plain terrible behavior. It’s worse when you look at them in disbelief, and they act like they didn’t see you!

You don’t have to have no money to be poor. Poor, un-elegant people exist as a result of a poor mindset. A scarcity mindset. A scarcity mindset is the nemesis of grace and poise. A scarcity mindset often leads to desperation. And desperation isn’t a trait of poise. I know we’ve all felt desperate for something in our lives, but desperation born out of a scarcity mindset will destroy all efforts to achieve poise.

A scarcity mindset will also dispel a woman’s serenity and calmness; and as a result – how classy or poised she will become.

I’ll give you another example. You’re hopping on to a train, and you can see there are only a couple of seats left. You walk on calmly, – and before you know it, some arrogant and selfish person pushes you out the way to get to the seat first. This is not graceful. It is not poised. People like this don’t earn respect, they remain forgotten and in other people’s distant memory; deep in the dust.

The point is – there WILL be a seat available! Poise is about being at peace, knowing thatthere is enough to go around! Somebody else’s gain is not your loss!

A woman of poise makes a profound impact and commands respect at the highest level.

Even though these may be small, insignificant matters – every little bit counts. You must be poised even when there’s no-one around whom you are seeking to impress or please. Poise is unqualified. A poised woman lives it. And doesn’t act poised only when it benefitsher.

Like any women who achieves true success and commands respect, achieving poise is the same – you have to consider others beyond yourself.

5) Correct your posture, if your posture is suffering. Most people need to get better posture. And I don’t blame them – it’s so easy to get terrible posture with our lifestyle these days. The traditional book-on-the-head strategy doesn’t work.

There are much better ways to improve your posture. It’s not something that can be taught very well through words, so if you are interested in a video on improving your posture, please see our videos and post on 3 Steps to Instant Good Posture.

6) For this point, I’d like to quote the amazing Coach John Wooden:

“You can’t let praise or Criticism get to you. It is a weakness to get caught up in either one”.

Know your value. Be humble. Even if you are no.1 at something, we are always learning and should never assume that we are more ‘worthy’ than others. Part of knowing your value is knowing your abilities as well as your limitations. I do believe anyone can achieve anything they wish, but it’s important not to descend in to arrogance or egotism.

You may offer more value than others, and have better abilities, but any woman who tramples on others to feel better about herself, or to achieve an air or superiority, isn’t poised.

Arrogance destroys poise. It is not graceful, and neither is it elegant.

7) Model others. If there is a woman whom you consider to have great poise; look to her, figure out what it is that makes her so poised. Is it a special point of elegance that she has? Is it her ability to think before she acts?

Is it the way she holds herself? Poise consists of how one is presented to the world from the outside, as well as a person’s mindset.

Examples of women whom I think have great poise:

Natalie Portman – Despite her rap video.  (Warning: foul language right here)

Nicole Kidman

The late, extraordinarily beautiful soul, Audrey Hepburn

Michelle Obama

Michelle Pfeiffer

Charlize Theron

Julia Roberts

Kate Beckinsale

SUMMARY:

1. Poise comes through true, authentic inner confidence.

2. Face your fears and forgive yourself for past mistakes. Don’t get ‘locked’ in to a particular identity, or past identities.

3. Be honest but not blunt. Give real, good feedback, express your opinions with class and integrity.

4. Avoid a scarcity mindset.

5. Develop good posture.

6. Know your value, and be confident in your value.

7. Model others.

The Feminine Woman

8 Keys to Instant Charm – How to be a Charming Woman

Charm. Oh so easy to want, but oh! Not-so-easy to acquire! To be charming requires a change in mindset. It’s not like I can actually give you action steps to follow and it will then all fall in to place. No, no no! 

To become charming, you can follow actions steps, but what is important is the psychology of a charming woman. Just take a moment and visualize a woman whom you think is charming. Can you think of one? It can be a famous lady or it could be someone you know – a good friend. Perhaps your best friend.

It could be a man. Some men are really good at being charming. Although, I tend to associate charisma more with men, and charm more with women. What do you think?

You probably admire how effortlessly charming this woman/man seems. Charm seems like a quality out-of-reach for many, much like charisma. It’s known as a quality a lucky few are “blessed” with. Almost like a God-given talent. But it’s not. You’re probably already charming and you don’t even know it! But it’s good to at least be aware of what works.

Charm is defined as: a power of pleasing or attracting, as through personality or beauty; any action supposed to have magical power; to delight or please greatly by beauty; attractiveness; enchant.

At a very basic level, all humans have it in them to please, be attractive to, and enchant other human beings. Any woman can have a magical effect on her friends, her husband or boyfriend, and relatives. Because at some level, we are all the same. We all have an unsaid and unseen understanding, in one way or another (even though we unfortunately tend to segregate people in society). We all have the same basic human needs, and we all experience pain and pleasure of some sort; even though we are all clearly so different.

And even though other people may seem like they don’t understand you, and sometimes we seem like we humans are worlds apart; we all have that magical power within us.

And why is charm important anyway? Well, you will see in the steps I give below, but charm is incredibly important in life because it allows you to connect with anyone and everyone a little deeper than just the ‘basic’, dreary pleasantries and superficial  conversation. It endears you to others, thereby creating a deeper connection and allowing you more influence.

Not only this, but it attracts people to you – men, women and children alike. Being charming allows you to bring people joy, ecstasy, laughter, fun and to touch their lives in a special, exciting way.

And for you? Well, being charming will help you become a very memorable woman; friend, colleague, lover, mother, daughter and member of society. All the shapes of woman you can think of.

So here are 8 keys that will show you how to become a charming woman:

1) See the humor in things. Not everything has to be taken seriously. If you are always stressed, your magical effect will definitely be suffering. If you laugh at yourself, others will think it’s ok to be themselves around you, and that they won’t be judged and made to feel less around you.

Just let go, be free and really laugh. If you have a funny or odd laugh, so be it. That makes you even funnier. 

If someone says “you’re weird”, have a laugh about it! Chuckle and say “I know”. After all, everybody is weird. If you’re not weird or ‘different’ in some way, you’re boring.

Sometimes, the key to seeing the humor in things is to be in a humorous, light-hearted, happy mood to start with.

If you’re expecting visitors, or if your boyfriend or husband is due home, and you feel miserable (but must get your mood up for the sake of the people you care about), perhaps you could think of a funny video you can watch on YouTube that you know will alwayschange your state and put you in to a good spirit.

Have some songs, or a few articles/videos tucked away in your bookmarks (sign up todelicious.com for a really easy, Free, and simple bookmarking service), or keep them in your memory. Here are a couple of videos that change my state, get me smiling and get me rolling on the floor laughing in no time:

2) Don’t try to please everyone, and don’t obsess over whether this or that person is upset with you/dislikes you. Easier said than done (at least for me anyway).  The more you worry about these things, the less you will endear yourself to others. Because you’re really just focusing on yourself (in a bad way).

This sucks energy from others, rather than allowing your magnetic and magical abilities to flow. A charming woman has the ability to move on when necessary. Again, easier said than done. But so worth the effort!

Instead, focus on using the power that you do have. You can influence others with good intentions, and you can care more. Ultimately, that’s one of the best options. The more you worry about their thoughts about you, the more you become a leech, and a burden on their life.

Life is really, really short. You don’t have the TIME to obsess over other people’s thoughts about you.

Everybody is already judging you anyway. People are always making judgments about you! So be it. Can you control this? Hell, no! Well, some may think that if they keep obsessing over it, they might eventually be doing the ‘right’ thing. You cannot do the ‘right thing’ by others all the time.

Sometimes, you may just happen to annoy people accidentally. It happens to everybody. No-one is immune to this!

For some, no matter WHAT you do, they’ll just choose to hate you anyway. And it has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them.

In effect, if you don’t want to be judged, just do nothing! Strive for nothing! Be nothing, and think nothing. Just be completely useless! But guess what, people will judge you for that, too!! Surprise! 

If you know other people’s judgments ultimately don’t make a difference to what you do, then you’re well on your way to becoming charming. Granted, people say hurtful things, and it’s ok to be upset – but it’s really all about not getting so caught up in your own need to be ‘accepted’. These kinds of people are not charming. They’re more likely to be a turn-off.

3) In interaction with others, be at the same energy level or higher. Bounce back on the level of others. Don’t be a drag, What do I mean? I mean, when you meet someone at a social event or wherever you meet people, and you’re having a conversation, be presentand keep the energy up and going between the both of you.

Don’t get too caught up in your own judgments of others and their views that you can’t even carry on a conversation with them and continue being present.

Bouncing back on other people’s level also means to mirror them (copy their facial expressions and mannerisms), and influence them with your energy (this can also be feminine energy of course)  . If they’re excited, be excited for them. If they’re upset, judge the situation – maybe it’s better to show sympathy. Go with your instincts.

If they say something that seems weird to you, that’s not in your way of thinking – just accept it and keep the energy up. Ask them about it; try to understand.

To be charming, magical and endearing, you have to be able to make people feel like you are like them; that you’re a friend.

4) See the good in things. Think; where’s the GOOD in this? What can I do right NOWthat will make me feel free and lighten up? What would I need to think, believe, feel or do right NOW, to begin seeing the good side of this situation?

Feeling depressed can be overwhelming, and sometimes you’d rather jump off a tall building than continue on, but there’s always something good in everything. There’s always something that you can learn.

By the way, a pessimist is not charming.

5) Be present. Whenever you meet, engage with, or see someone, maintain eye contact. Listen and be attentive. Avoid “fidgeting”.

And don’t stare in to space. Have you ever been saying something to someone, and they look like they are off in space, and you feel like a bit of a donkey for speaking whilst no-one is listening?

And then only to become MORE annoyed when you say “you’re not listening” and they say, “yes I was!” and when you ask them “OK, well, what did I just say?” and though they’re able to say back to you exactly what you just said, you KNOW they weren’t really listening; it was just that they managed to somehow yank your words out of their memory and regurgitate them to you?

By the way, people are able to do this due to a thing known as the phonological loop, a part of the brain that takes whatever is coming in to your ears, and it plays it over and over again for a few seconds in your head after you hear it.  ta da! There you have it. An ability to regurgitate what you didn’t truly listen to.

But don’t do this! A lack of presence negates charm. Again; maintain eye contact, listen and be attentive.

6) Acknowledge and understand that there are 2 types of charm and charisma within you, and engage people. Choose wisely.

A great woman who is confident in herself can utilize both of these with ease, without dampening people’s spirits.

The first type of charm is the kind of charm that comes from focusing solely on others.

The second type of charm is the kind of charm that comes from focusing on yourself.

Think about it. Haven’t you met someone who was really in to themselves, that would rarely sit down and listen to YOU, but they seemed to be charming anyway? Something about them endeared you to them, and perhaps it was a friend of yours who wasn’t such a good friend – but you were repeatedly enticed in to the friendship again and again? (you don’t want to be this kind of friend, but the example is there to show you that you can still be charismatic through a focus on yourself).

The key is knowing how to do it without being a downer. A drag of a person.

Admittedly, great charm comes from a focus on others. But a truly charming woman has the ability to be both without trying to prove anything to anybody.

She is confident in who she is, and isn’t trying to convince you of anything, or sellherself to you.

Why can someone who’s focused on themselves be charming? Because they still manage to engage people. They actually have a way of making people laugh (whether it be at THEM or at something/someone else). They are generally able to make people feelGOOD.

People who are able to be charming through a focus on themselves often draw you in further to them through their self-focus, and ability to make fun of themselves or intrigue you.

They’re engaging. And engaging is central to being charming.

The word ‘magical’, being a part of the definition of ‘charming’ really is a quality that someone has that makes others happy.

Be aware of the two kinds of charm, and choose wisely. One type of charm/charisma may be more useful than another type at any given time. But, just in case you think you can’tpossibly consciously always think about and focus on choosing which type to utilize, you’re right.

But by being aware, and starting to act on this awareness, you’ll often find that you begin to do things subconsciously and naturally.

But ultimately, if you truly care for others, you can use either charm and be in a win-win situation. 

7) Let go and be a kid. Have FUN!! Even when it’s a little taboo to have fun. Children often have a lot of charm, (when they’re in a good mood). Small children don’t care what other people think.

They’re charming because they’re innocent, addicted to adventure and fun, wide-eyed, crazy, able to just be themselves, and they’re full of energy as well as being responsive.You say ‘poop’ and they laugh their butt off! You pinch their face, and they laugh! You clap your hands, they laugh! You make a silly face, and they laugh, and laugh and laugh!

At first you just think it’s cute, but by the end, you’re so infected with their energy that you’re laughing too! And you want to be around this baby, because he or she makes you feel GOOD! Next time you see a puddle, jump in it, instead of bitching about it.  Jump on a trampoline, make FUN a central focus of your life. Relax and let go. If you love fun, you’re charming.

8 ) Love your femininity, and be comfortable in being a woman. Accentuate all the attributes that make you feminine and womanly. It’s ok to play with your hair, twist it around in your finger, pout, bite your lip, and it’s ok to delight in your new pretty skirt, and twirl it around. This doesn’t make you an air head or a dummy, it makes you charming, especially to a man.

If you make a mistake, just go straight back to being the woman that you are. keep moving forward, and go right ahead and laugh at yourself.

Finally, some examples of women (and a few men) who I think are charming:

Goldie Hawn

Vanessa Paradis

Tyra Banks

Heidi Klum

Cameron Diaz

Julia Roberts

Clint Eastwood

Robin Williams

Sean Connery

George Clooney

Johnny Depp

SUMMARY

1) See the humor in things. Be able to laugh at yourself.

2) Stop trying to please people. When are people judging you? All the time.

3) In interaction with others, be at the same energy level or higher.

4) See the good in things

5) Be present in interaction with others

6) Acknowledge the 2 types of charm, engage people, and choose wisely.

7) Let go and be a kid – let the child in you show

8 ) Love your femininity, be comfortable in being a woman; accentuate your womanliness

The Feminine Woman

Feminine Charms, Secrets and Virtues of the Geisha

This amazing guest post is written by my sister blogger Melina at ‘The Art of Being Feminine’. Melina is an extraordinary lady who is an expert in the field of femininity and continues to inspire hundreds of women to revel in their femininity.

You can find her blog here: http://theartofbeingfeminine.blogspot.com/

The geisha; a truly magical mixture of FEMININITY, nobility, sophistication, mysteriousness and seductiveness. Moreover, many of them are considered to be beautiful and witty. And, that particular mixture of feminine traits can virtually enslave a man!

The geisha are also very poised, graceful, elegant, demure, but smart damsels, who preside over everything with a most becoming dignity and precision. Every gesture and movement of their deft hands, have been prescribed by the most rigid of etiquette too.

However, many misinformed people are under the mistaken belief that geisha are courtesans or prostitutes. Perhaps even, your own opinion of the geisha has also been influenced by this mistaken belief. Well, let me tell you doves, this is NOT true! And, even though the geisha certainly does take her place as the natural recipient of masculine homage and admiration, a geisha can MARRY, and often does.

Until this modern era, the geisha were the most highly educated of Japanese women, skilled in all of the feminine arts, so naturally many of them made brilliant marriages!

Admittedly there will always be a few geisha who’ll probably make their profession an excuse for attracting rich admirers. But a professional courtesan she isn’t! And, her favors are certainly not for sale to ‘the highest bidder’! Interestingly, the geisha are generally quite virtuous ladies as well, and in most cases they’ll have enough assertiveness and strength of character to resist the flattering importunity of their suitors.

Now cupcakes, let’s move on to the numerous secrets, charms and virtues of the geisha, as well as try and describe them….

The Geisha – A Beautiful and Exotic ‘Butterfly of the East;

The geisha have often been referred to as ‘The Butterflies of the East,’ and they lure men from all over the world with their fantastical, exotic and heightened goddess-like appearance. They have dark peony red lips, the whitest of porcelain skin, and behind their necks are three soft pretty lines – forming what connoisseurs of beauty call “the necklace of Venus.”

The big loops of their blue-black hair are thrust full of wonderful combs, pins, pretty flowers and curious ornaments of gold. What beautifully dressed coiffures to admire!

The geisha’s beauty aims are to cultivate ‘the nine points of beauty’ (kokono-tokoro,) and these nine points of beauty entail the geisha’s;

1. Head
2. Face
3. Eyes
4. Mouth
5. Hands
6. Feet
7. Spirit
8. Posture
9. And, of course, SEDUCTIVE AIR!

When looking at the geisha, you’ll probably notice that every thing about them is extremely FEMININE AND DETAILED! A Western woman is usually impressed too, by the great detail, as well as cost of some of their gorgeous kimonos. In fact doves, no expense is spared in making them as beautiful as possible. (You can also learn more about the fine details of the beauty of a Geisha, the Geisha Lifestyle and the ways of a Geisha by reading the book ‘Memoirs of a Geisha‘ by Arthur Golden. A thoroughly enjoyable book!)

Moreover, the kimono deigns are carefully thought out, and a professional artist is selected to design them. And, after the work is completed, the stencils are usually destroyed, so that the pattern may never be duplicated.

Have you ever seen those Japanese kitten ornaments, which supposedly bring good-fortune? They sit erect, with one of their paws outstretched – as if tying to beckon the viewer (hence the name; ‘Beckoning Kitten.’) Now, those of you who know the soul of the geisha will probably agree that semblance of the kitten is also a semblance of the geisha – pretty, playful, beckoning and caressing!

The Geisha – Lovers of Men – and Loved By Men;

The occupants of the ‘flower and willow world’ truly LOVE men cupcakes (no feminists there,) and they’re often very romantic, passionate, as well as deeply sentimental woman. A geisha will also know by sight all the important men of her city, the character of each, as well as the history of all of them.

Not only does a geisha highly esteem and respect men, but she speaks to them in a soft and caressing voice – a voice without a hint of sarcasm, meanness or coarse speech. Many of them walk around smiling a lot of the time too – and with such an adorable appearance of child-like shyness and maidenly self-possession.

And, when a geisha’s in love, you’ll notice that she’s so full of delight, and her songs are usually about LOVE (and full of meaning) – sung to the notes of the samisen. In addition, the sentiment and phrasing of her songs are often ‘fairy-like’ in their delicacy.

It wasn’t uncommon in the past, for a geisha to die by her own hand – because she loved a man who for some reason, couldn’t marry her. Thankfully such a tragic ending for a geisha doesn’t happen today, and due to their many feminine charms and attributes, the geisha are much courted – and often make a brilliant match too!

A husband is often led captive by his geisha wife’s dreamy smile, and how her eyelids will slowly lift, to gaze at her man -and her marvelous black eyes will have real magic in them. Moreover, the exotic pleasures that a geisha wife can provide to her husband prove irresistible to him – and are incomparable to other women. In fact, despite a geisha’s look of innocence, the ‘arts of the bedchamber’ are taken very seriously by her indeed 

The Geisha – A True Feminine Artist;

The very word geisha means ‘person of art’ – cultivated in all the arts and graces that may only add to their ability to PLEASE. Moreover, the geisha are adherents of ‘the feminine arts’ – in every sense of the word! Thus a geisha not only sings and dances attractively, but she’s a trained poet, writer, conversationalist, and temptress as well.

The Geisha are also the Japanese representatives of not only of the nine muses, but of some other goddesses (in particular of Hebe.) They entertain their audiences in tea houses, or at temple festivals, with singing, dancing, samisen playing, games, polite speech and pantomime. Other times their services are required at the private houses of high officials or dignitaries.

For a true fan of the geisha, or for a connoisseur of Japanese culture, each gesture of a dancing geisha is significant, and each pose symbolic. In pantomime, the geisha frequently develop great talent, which never fails to fascinate a foreigner, though to really appreciate their performances, a certain taste and love for Japanese culture is required.

The geisha are also required to pass the tea, sake, as well as the various cakes, fruits and Japanese dishes (that have been so daintily prepared,) amongst all their guests at performances, banquets, and even weddings. No matter where they happen to be, the way they serve the refreshments is controlled by strict etiquette.

**A maiko (a ‘geisha-in-training,’ but not yet a geisha,) already knows how to fill your wine cup exactly full, with a single toss of the bottle, and without spilling a drop!

As for the way the geisha perform, they can look like human dragon-flies, performing with such BEAUTY, POISE AND GRACE, that you’re almost speechless. Like running ribbons, you can witness them flowing in double streams across the stage – with such graceful whirls and eddies – bearing flowers in one hand, and a fan in the other.

Or you’ll catch them individually stepping out – perching, posing, pirouetting, darting and fluttering with the grace of a butterfly – through a maze of correlated motions. You’ll also notice that their darting here and there appears as an almost unconscious and automatic smoothness – of a bird or insect.

The geisha’s drums will rattle, and their zithers will clang, in perfect unison. Their singing is beautifully uplifting and intoxicating too. And, to fully appreciate many of the geisha’s performances, one must be aware of the hundreds of hours of painstakingly patient rehearsal. It’s also necessary to catch the geisha’s continual allusion to poems, legends, and even to flowers (which is an example of the treasure-house of Japanese memory,) to truly be able to appreciate their performances.

Moreover, in every patient artisan of Kyoto is that feminine spirit of CREATIVITY. Out of cotton and paper a geisha can fashion a poem so lovely, that it can haunt the memory of a man. And, so profound will be her poem, that the deepest instincts of the male beholder will be stirred.

The Geisha – A Most Charming Woman

A geisha is charming to everyone she meets, and she’s been well taught, above all else, to use her power of FEMININE CHARM to her greatest advantage. She may be free to smile upon anyone she pleases; but she’s also been trained to entertain the guests with her wit, her warmth, her sparkling conversation, and her flirtatiousness and coquetry – lending that attraction and brightness to social affairs

If YOU too are interested in being a charming woman, you can study; The Feminine Arts of Charm and Charisma Course

The Geisha – A Mysterious Woman;

The geisha are renowned for being MYSTERIOUS women, and they’ve always known that men have always been fascinated by mysterious women. But what actually is the mystery of the geisha, the screen’s aside and she’s kneeling on her mat? And, what are her realthoughts, emotions, and her ‘secret-self’ all about?

Perhaps, we’ll never, ever know ( and that’s just how a geisha likes it to be!) Moreover, if you’re interested in being a mysterious woman, you can read Renee’s excellent article‘How to Be Mysterious.’

I hope you enjoyed my article ‘The Feminine Charms, Secrets and Virtues of the Geisha.’ However, this is just a mere glimpse really, of the inhabitants of ‘The Flower and Willow World.’ However, in my school of courtesan and geisha arts for women, you can learn a whole multitude of geisha secrets – including their love and seduction secrets! 

- The Feminine Woman -